Having A Baby? Where’s The Instruction Manual?

The first time I found out I was pregnant was one of the happiest days of my life. I called my husband and we were so excited and very happy. I then called my mother right away and I will never forget the sound of her voice and her emotion. She was so happy. Then I really thought about all the changes that my body was about to go through and I cried.

I read books, googled info and even talked to other moms. I wanted to be prepared. I got everything ready. Clothing, blankets and hospital bag. Everything was ready and organized. I had a beautiful baby shower and I will always remember those special moments shared with family and friends. I was ready and set so I thought…

As the days went by my body started changing. I got stretch marks and applied creams and lotions hoping they would go away. My hair got thinner and was falling out. My weight started to change. I cried a lot. I cut my hair off by my self. I didn’t know who I was anymore. I was so sick. I could not eat and some smells really made me sick. I felt like a crazy wild animal ready to attack anyone who pissed me off. Not pleasant at all. Sleep was hard. My body was changing and pregnancy was so difficult. Some people tell you they feel beautiful when they are pregnant and they glow… and I was like “That’s a friken lie!” “You’re all liars!”. I couldn’t eat, sleep or fit into anything nice. My moods were crazy and I hated the entire process. Don’t get me wrong I was also very excited to meet my little girl.

CRAVINGS WHILE PREGO: My cravings were corn with butter, peanut M&Ms, hamburgers, subs and pickles.

The body changes so much. Breasts become huge, feet legs and everything swells like balloons. Back pain and cramps. You go to the bathroom very often. Some women experience a lot of saliva and have to spit a lot. Rashes and yeast infections are common. Stretch marks and weight gain. Walking and breathing become difficult. It’s very challenging to go through pregnancy. Who ever has less symptoms is super lucky.

April 23 at 5:30 in the morning I took a shower and my water broke. I looked at my husband and said “Is this supposed to happen? I’m leaking.” We rushed to the hospital and 12 hours later after hard labour, pain, crying turning into a red balloon and looking like the girl that turns into a grape from “Charlie and the Chocolate Factory” I gave birth to my beautiful Eleni. My husband has a different story and perspective on how things happen. Apparently I was very angry at him and yelled at him and after having the baby I was back to my loving normal self. But what ever…lol 😀 Everything goes away when you hold your baby in your arms for the first time. From the minute I gave birth all I could think about is the love and safety for this little human.

I will always remember my mother’s face as she held my daughter. I will never forget the warmth on her loving face. The smile and love. I miss her. Anyhow, I can’t help but get so emotional writing this…

So the next day off we went home. It’s like “So here’s your baby! Have a nice day and thank you for coming and good luck!” I’m like “what are we going to do now, No instruction manual?” I read so much and yet everything gets tossed out the window because each baby and experience is different. It is always good to know your basics but it feels overwhelming when you go home with your baby. Everything changes. Your perspective on life changes.

First three months I had very little sleep. My little girl ate often and I went to a nurse for breast feeding classes which really helped. I did breast feeding for a year with my first little girl. It was hard work and also so special and very beautiful. The feeling and bond when you breast feed is one I will remember for ever. It’s truly remarkable. In the beginning there are more feedings and it can be challenging but as time goes by the baby’s feedings get bigger in each sitting and the feedings become less often which is good. The first three months are a huge adjustment. I’m so grateful my husband was able to stay home with me for two weeks.

The infant stage is so sweet. All the little clothing and the baby making cute sounds. Very sweet when they laugh and giggle. The baby smell is amazing but the diapers overflowing with poop is not so much fun. I loved the infant stage because babies are so cute to hold and snuggle with. They are adorable and beautiful. Now the toddler stage is another fun challenge!

Infant Items that can be helpful

Baby Thermometer

Medicine Dropper

Aspirator

Gripe Water

Soother

Breast cream if you are breast feeding

Bottle Sterilizer ( I used AVENT)

Diapers

Diaper Cream ( I used Desitin)

Sound Machine

Burping Pads

Diapers

Having children comes with no instruction manual. Everything you read doesn’t always work for everyone but there is one thing that always works and it’s a mother’s instinct. That is one thing that really helped me out. It’s like this super magical power that happens the minute you hold your baby for the first time. A mother just knows the babies cries and needs. Let me know in the comments if you know what I’m talking about.

Pregnancy is different for everyone. While some find it easy some find it really difficult. My first pregnancy was so different than my second pregnancy. With my first, I breast fed for one year and my second I only breast fed for two months. I switched to formula because she was premature and I was stressed because of the loss of family member so that made things really difficult for me. My first girl was born close to 40 weeks but my second baby was only 26 weeks. First child took over 12 hours to be born and my second one took only 3-4 hours to be born. So each baby is different.

I hope I’ve helped you out in some way in this article. Please feel free to comment or share your story in the comments. Thank you all for reading.

TIPS

Get sleep when baby sleeps.

Take walks and get outdoors.

Ask for help when you need.

Talk to someone if you feel sad or down.

If you are planning to breast feed take the class they offer at the hospital.

When Breast feeding keep water by your side and drink because you can get dehydrated.

Always stay hydrated and eat fresh healthy foods and soups if you decide to breast feed. Some foods may bother baby and give the baby gas. Keep track of what you are eating. It helps.

*Don’t get stressed if you can’t breast feed. It’s not a shameful or bad thing. It’s okay and there are plenty of formulas that will work for your baby. You have done nothing wrong. You are an amazing mother.

Baby rash butt cream that I used for both babies DESITIN

Give baby lots of snuggles and cuddles and love. Skin to skin is lovely.

Gripewater helps with gas and upset tummies.

I massaged both of my babies gently everyday with oils and it helped baby sleep better.

After baby feeds it’s great to gently sit them up and rub their back until they get a good burp. Sometimes digestion and gas can cause babies to cry.

If someone you know offers to babysit say yes! Enjoy some time for your self.

When your partner is home let him/her take over for a while and enjoy a shower, bath or nap. Seriously it helps!

If you are breast feeding ask your doctor for cream for your nipples. They can get dry and irritated sometimes.

Ask for help when it gets too much for you or if you are feeling tired. If you feel alone or sad at anytime of your pregnancy ask for help and always talk to someone. There is always someone here to help. A family member, friend, nurse and doctor. They are here to help you no matter what you are going through. Know that your emotions and hormones are all over the place and it is very normal. Feel free to ask me any question and I’m here to chat with you any time you like in the comments.

Fall Blog Post Ideas

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Fall begins on September 22nd and I wanted to help out bloggers with ideas and inspiration for Fall. Fall is one of my favourite Seasons and I wanted to create content that is full of Autumnal bliss. I hope this blog post helps. Feel free to share this post with other fellow bloggers and I would love to read your posts once you are done. In the fall I always come up with a list of blog ideas and it really helps with my creative process. Sometimes I don’t get to all of them but it’s nice to have a list and plan.

fall blog ideas

  1. Write things you like to do in nature during Autumn. It could be a bike ride, walk, picking pumpkins, apple picking or anything that involves nature.
  2. What are some of your favourite reading materials in the Fall? Books, magazines, articles or someones blog. Let us know! Sharing is caring.
  3. Write about a yummy fall recipe that you love. It could include breakfast, lunch, dinner. You don’t have to create your own recipe, you can share one that’s already out there. Just remember if you mention other recipes to link to the original creator.
  4. Your favourite Fall film or shows.
  5. Favourite Skincare product and how does your skincare routine change in the Fall?
  6. A Fall Lookbook. Show us pieces of your favourite clothing for Fall. Would love to know what you love to wear. Is it a sweater or a special scarf? Let us know how amazing you feel and show us how fabulous you look!
  7. What are your favourite Fall Fragrances? Why? What are the notes that make it special to you? Is it cinnamon? Cardamom? share the details and secrets that make it special.
  8. What are your wellness and health changes in the Fall? Do you go for a run? Is it yoga in the park? Do you go to a special class? How about vitamins or essential oils? Baths and massages? Share with us how your health and wellness changes with the season.
  9. With fall comes new decorations, colours, patterns and beautiful shapes. Share your home decor! Do you change things in the Fall? Do you decorate with Autumnal foliage? Share your space with us and give us some inspiration!
  10. Do you have Fall family traditions? Would love to read more about them. Share your story and some images that bring your story to life.
  11. Fall Makeup and makeup tips. Share your makeup look and what you’ve used.
  12. Fall DIY. It could be your handmade Fall decoration, Fall journaling, Fall scrapbook page any Fall craft or even knitting and costume making. Share that DIY!
  13. FALL ART if you create art share it!
  14. What are some things you do with your children in the Fall? Do you go apple picking? Do you gather leaves and paint with them? What are some things the kids love to do in the Fall?
  15. Make a Fall wish list.
  16. Make a Gratitude blog post. What are things you are grateful for?
  17. Slowcooker recipes. I love my slow cooker so please share your recipes!
  18. Fall Soup recipes.
  19. Places to Travel in the Fall. I love traveling and we are all from different parts of the world so it’s amazing to see photos of your special place and especially what it looks like in the Fall. Please share your special Fall travel places.
  20. Favourite Fall nail polishes.
  21. Create a Fall Bucket list.
  22. A Fall poem. If you don’t write poems challenge your self and write one. Share it with an Autumnal photo.
  23. Fall Hairstyles.
  24. Fall Photography. Challenge your self and take a Fall photo. It could be nature, still life, flowers or food. Have fun.
  25. Share your Fall favourite accounts! It could be on any social media platform.
  26. Collaborate with other fellow bloggers and create a challenge or simply work together and create! It’s so amazing to get to know others and share what you love and have in common. Or you can even learn from your differences. Working with others can be so fun and rewarding.
  27. Create a mood board. It could be on line or with actual paper and magazines or photo collage.
  28. Create a Pinterest Board and share it in your blog  post. Tell us all about it! Check out mine if you like. FALL IN LOVE.
  29. Write a post starting with Dear August… or Dear September… or Dear October…
  30. Write a post reflecting back on your Summer and what you look forward to in Autumn.
  31. What’s in your handbag in the Fall? Does it change? What products do you carry with you?
  32. Favourite Fall Drinks.
  33. Favorite Fall desserts.
  34. Top Five Fashion Accessories.
  35. Favourite Scary Movies.
  36. Favourite Fall Scents and why are they your favourite? Does it bring up a memory? Share that Childhood memory. Explore it.
  37. A list of things that make you happy in the Fall.
  38. Write about a Day in Your life in the Fall.
  39. Write about a special memory you have of Fall.
  40. Write about your Thanksgiving Dinner Traditions.
  41. Write about Halloween and how you celebrate it.
  42. Create a Fall wallpaper for the computer and share it with your readers.

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I hope this post was helpful to you and I hope it brings you some inspiration. Can’t wait to read your posts! Happy Blogging!THank you for visiting blog end